Why I Refuse To Let Technology Control Me
What is the first thing you do when you wake up? Open the curtains and smile at the day ahead? Roll over and kiss your partner? Or do you pick up your phone and check how many people liked your selfie, after you went to bed? So you're out for a drink with friends and are you really there in the moment, enjoying yourself, or are you too busy messaging the other friends that couldn't make it? Do you really see the fascination on your children's faces, whilst they are playing and experiencing life or did you just think you could snatch a minute to clear a few of those amounting emails in your inbox? Is this the reality you want in your life? In your children's lives?
Of course social media and technology have a firm place in society, it can make you money, save you time, enable you to socialise with people that you physically can't see because of distance, or circumstances, but surely we need to see the balance between a healthy way of using this technology and the ever increasing unhealthy, unsociable and in fact damn right rude way, that is becoming more and more normal in people's lives. When it gets to the point in your life that you are ignoring a friend or loved one, because you feel the need to update your facebook status or tweet about something, stop! Ask yourself do I really need to tell the world this? Look around you and see if your attention would be better spent on the real people in your life, that crave your time. Step away from the phone and breath in the fresh air, before immersing yourself in the moment and maybe at the end of the day look back and ask yourself, did anyone miss you uploading yet another selfie of your new outfit? Did anyone starve because you didn't let them know what you had for dinner? Is it possible that someone lives in a house with no windows and desperately needed to know what the weather was like today? Maybe they went out wearing a bikini because you didn't let them know is was raining outside?!
And guess what? If they did, let's hope that they looked up at the sky and decided to dance in the rain. Or would you rather they rushed to log onto facebook, to let the next poor unwitting person know it's not beach selfie weather?
Maybe this kind of behaviour has become so common, that we don't even realise we are doing it. The stark reality is... nearly every person with a smart phone including me is guilty of this, at some point or another. I know I have certainly looked around me and felt exactly how this woman is feeling in this short film? Have you? Or were you the one on your phone, oblivious to how lonely and isolated you have made people feel, whilst sitting right there apparently in your company?
The overall message is simply, use technology to your advantage, but stop to realise when it becomes obsessive or selfish and is taking you away from the beauties of your life, and the people that love and need you. Realise, that your friends think that you are beautiful already, without posting a selfie a day to prove it to them. What they would probably prefer, is to be invited to spend some time with you, not feel the need to bow down to how stunning you can make yourself look in your next bathroom mirror pose and give them the feeling that they are not worthy of your company! Even cats have caught on to this trend!
I don't know about you but these are the memories I want in my life, not the ones pictured above. That's not to say that you should never dare to post that picture of the lovely dinner you prepared with the fresh veggies from your garden. That you should never contemplate allowing your adorable cat near a camera to take a cute cuddly selfie, or that we could not care less that there is a beautiful rainbow above your house. It's just about keeping that balance in life. When you're out having a romantic meal, enjoy the moment! If you're invited out with friends, smile, laugh, dance, sing, whatever takes you're fancy, just don't neglect a face to face conversation by tapping away on your phone or ipad the entire duration. Wake up and kiss your kids, your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife, and tell them you love them! When was the last time you did that? And if you're now thinking, "Hey, what about me? I'm single... well then get up and look out the window and think what a beautiful day it is and then go to the mirror and say to yourself "This is going to be a great day!"
CC images (in order of appearance):
Selfie Super Hot Di Kim Kardashian Su Instagram - Foto courtesy of Flickr user Hot Gossip Italia
Anna Tatangelo Hot Scatta Un Sexy Selfie In Bikini Per La Gioia Dei Suoi Fan courtesy of Flickr user Hot Gossip Italia
Don't Let The Cold Put You Off Having Fun At The Beach courtesy of Flickr user Carl Jones